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There is an exchange of energy that is palpable and magnetic.
When that reciprocity is lacking, there’s a coldness to the scene that is unsatisfying to me. If I watch someone play and their scenes seem more about putting on a show than connecting with their partner, it turns me off.
Not every carnival-goer wants to ride all the rides, and they’re not required to.
I have a lot of empathy and compassion, but don’t expect me to do this emotional labor for you.
(And dudes, thinking only penis-in-vagina/ass qualifies as “actual” or “real” sex is some heteronormative bullshit right there.) I will make it unequivocally clear that tongues/fingers/cocks/toys aren’t going on/in my or your various holes, at least not until we establish chemistry, mutual desire, and safety precautions. If that’s a deal breaker for you, you get to set that boundary and decline playing with me. What I don’t appreciate is the assumption that if I consent to play, I consent to sex.
It tells me you didn’t read my profile very carefully. I’ve done lots of pick-up play and had plenty of negotiated-on-the-fly scenes with folks I barely knew.
They are the things that, taken individually, might not be automatic deal breakers. Probably just this person’s personality quirks or play style. There’s no such thing as online privacy, and to quote the Princess Bride, anyone who tells you differently is selling something.) You don’t feel “comfortable” meeting at events like munches, workshops, or play parties. But if you don’t want to meet in public at all or won’t provide a name and cell number, I’ll probably pass. If discretion is that important to you, I’m a bad choice as a partner.
But the more yellow flags I spot, the less likely I am to be compatible with someone, whether as casual play partners, lovers, or friends. If that object is you and you don’t like what you see, only you can change that. Bottom line: my time is limited and my safety is more important to me than your comfort, so if this is non-negotiable, we will probably never meet. But if you’ve never managed to maintain ongoing friendships or even basic civility with any former partners, I’m going to wonder why.