Boundaries dating physical
You are going to want to be with a person who can deny himself or herself for the sake of your relationship in many areas.
Think of the areas of sacrifice that a relationship takes.
Don’t feel like you have to rush or do anything you’re not ready to do. You’re never required to do anything physically or sexually you don’t want to do.
And if they don’t want to do something physically or sexually, listen and respect that choice. It’s great to spend lots of time with someone, especially if it’s new, but it’s also necessary to spend time apart.
Consider this viewpoint: When someone can say no to sex outside of marriage, their behavior is a sign that he or she is capable of delaying gratification and exhibiting self-control, which are two prerequisites of the ability to love.
If someone cannot delay gratification and control himself or herself in this area, what makes you think that they can delay their own gratification in other areas of sacrifice?
Naturally, that is going to mean some sacrifice down the road.
What is going to curb the “I want what I want now” mentality in the rest of life?
If someone is able to respect the limit of hearing no for sex, then that is a character sign of someone who can say no to their own desires and hungers in order to serve a higher purpose, or to love another person.
For many people, both inside and outside of the church, it does not make sense.
If it feels so good, and is good for the relationship, and both people are consenting, then what is the problem?